Back at the end of 2019, I realized how full of negativity my Facebook feed was. It monopolizes the media, being constantly shoved down our throats, and I was super tired of it. I wanted to find my happy and went on a mission to mute the negativity in my life. I hope this helps you to find your happiness too!
It turns out that I didn’t have to look far. Happiness abounds, if you’ll let it. On my personal Instagram account, I began a 366 Days Of Happiness Challenge starting January 1st, 2020. If I had known what 2020 was about to throw at us, maybe I wouldn’t have started this quest! But I didn’t, so I began.
My goal was to post about 1 thing that made me happy every single day. Then COVID-19 hit, along with the Great Toilet Paper Panic, and with just a few words from the W.H.O., the entire world was thrown into unprecedented chaos.
And yet I just kept doing my thing.
I will admit 2 things however:
- I did skip one day due to a brutal migraine, but even with that, I totally felt guilty for bailing, so I posted a cancellation notice anyway!
- After the pandemic hit, I thought seriously about ending my challenge. It then occurred to me that it’s during our darkest times that we need our smiles and happiness. So I continued on.
By March 11th, the day the pandemic was declared, I had already experienced some pretty profound changes. I was waking up feeling better, happier. I no longer had to go searching for something that made me smile as happiness was all around me! being present in the moment, I was noticing the little things that we take for granted, and being grateful for each and every one of those things. My quest to find my happy was becoming real!
Of course, like pretty much everyone, I hit bad times. Living on an emotional roller coaster is no fun. And through high anxiety in the mix and you end up with more chaos. But I’d write it all out in my journal, or talk it out with a friend on Messenger, and eventually I would find my calm and continue on.
I’ve learned several lessons on this journey, and I hope they will help you to find your happiness:
Celebrate The Good Moments!
The first time I hugged a friend in June, after 3+ months of no physical connections at all, is a moment in time I will always remember. Never again will I take the power of a hug for granted! Hold on to the emotions you feel during the good moments and they will always be there for you to draw from. Your emotional happiness bucket that you can use over and over again, and the best part is, it’s a bottomless bucket so you can constantly store your happiness away!
Find Your Happiness Along With Gratitude!
You have probably heard about practising gratitude time and time again. There’s a reason for that.. It Works! In combination with daily journaling, I have also incorporated daily gratitude, even if it’s just being darn grateful I was able to start the day with a hot cup of coffee! Everything counts, and I believe that in the days and months following our global lock downs, we have realized just how much we took for granted in our daily lives. Again with that whole power of a hug thing I just mentioned.
Reduce the noise in your life. It’s next to impossible to miss all the bad news filling our social media feeds these days, so I reduced what I was being bombarded with. I stopped following most news feeds on all social networks. I unfollowed people whose mission in life seemed to be promoting constant negativity and stirring up the drama pot. Really, who needs that in their lives? I sure don’t! Yes, I stayed in touch with current events, but I didn’t obsess over them as I was previously doing by having the news on 24/7. Instead, I watched the live streams of the two Canadian leaders who directly affected my life the most. If I had questions, I researched them so I could come to my own educated conclusions. But again, I didn’t obsess and spend hour after hour on these tasks.
By reducing the noise and focusing more on my own happiness, my anxieties and stresses eased. I was able to get off the couch and get things done. One foot in front of the other.
Be Conscious Of Your Own Negativity!
Of course there are times we will feel sadness, anger, grief, etc., but I believe the only way out is through. By recognizing your emotions, allowing yourself time to feel them and work through them, but not allowing them to dominate your life. Sometimes these emotions will even do great things for us! Have you ever experienced anger or hurt that caused you to change your life in some way? I sure have, and not only has it been one aspect that has helped my find my happy, it’s also really empowering!
As Dr. Phil is so fond of saying, “It takes ten ‘Atta Boy’s’ to erase one ‘You’re Not Good Enough'”. We are always so quick to believe in the bad things people say about us, when what really matters is what we believe about ourselves. The things we hear repeated to us over and over again are the things that stick in our subconscious minds. These are the things that will be the first out of the gate as reactions, and it may take some time to retrain your brain away from the negative. Try posting positive affirmations on sticky notes where you’ll see them often, and say them out loud on repeat several times a day.
My personal mantra has become the saying “She Believed She Could, So She Did”. These words have power to me, and they have helped me on my path time after time. I consistently work to find my happy on a daily basis. This has now become a habit for me, and that makes me happy!
I would love to challenge YOU to find your happiness! Please let me know in the comments, or shoot me an email about what works for you! I would love to hear about it!